Within
your brain you have many memories of successful
experiences in your life. You also have many memories
of seeing and hearing about the success of others.
Positive
Remembering has power because your body can not tell
the difference between what is your real memory and
an imaginary memory made of bits and pieces of other
people's success.
In other words
you can learn of other people's success, adopt their
technique's as your own and your body will behave as
if these were real experiences.
Your senses
respond by looking and listening for things in the
outside world which match the dream you have given
them. [see Brain Filters]
The mind
through the senses will also ignore things which do
not agree with the dream you've given it.
For example, Dolly Parton was a poor girl
isolated in the Tennessee mountains in reality. But
she feed her mind stories of others success in
Country Music. She also feed it by dreaming and
fantasizing that her life would be like those
successful stars. These stories became so real to her
that her mind automatically responded
by looking
for signs of her
own success and excluding anything
that did not agree with her image, such as poverty,
other people saying "you can't make it",
and the remoteness of the mountains.
In this
appendix I want you to learn SEVEN things all
successful people have done or thought to make their
dreams come true. As you learn these secrets they
will become part of your memories. You can blend in
your dreams with the techniques of these successful
people and automatically order
your mind to look for your own success.
1.
They recognized their dream whenever and wherever
they found it
Some people
have known what they wanted all their lives. However,
this knowing is the exception, not the rule. For most
of us, we seem to drift because we don't know what we
want to do
All successful
people have recognized their dream when ever and
where ever they found it.
How?
As they went
about their daily lives, they came across some
subject, some object, some certain something which
lit the fires of wonder and imagination in them. Put
simply - they fell in love with
this thing or idea as soon as they encountered it.
A Blind Date that turned into
Love
The famous CNN
reporter Christiane Amanpour who has won many awards
for her work in some of the world's most dangerous
nations is also one of those people who recognized
her dream when she found it.
Christiane
told Mike Wallace on "60 Minutes" that
finding her dream was "like a blind date that
turned into love."
She goes on to
tell the story of how her sister took a journalism
class which she ended up hating. Her sister decided
to try to get a refund and Christiane just went
along. The college wouldn't give her sister a refund.
So Christiane said, "Well, can I take the
course?" The answer was yes and she says
"that set me on my way.'
He went running after the car
Another person
whose dream found him was Soichiro Honda, the founder
of Honda Motor Company.
One day when
he was very young he saw his first automobile. At
that time cars were rare in Japan and the sight of
this one was enough to light the fires of young
Honda's imagination for the rest of his life.
He wrote about
that day many years later with the same emotion he
had felt then:
"Forgetting
about everything else, I went running after the car .
. . I was deeply stirred . . . I think it was at that
moment though I was a mere child, that the idea
originated I would one day build a car myself."
- Have You
Recognized Your Dream When You Found It?
- Has your
dream found you?
- Has some
idea, some event, some subject, or object sparked
your imagination?
- Have you had
a blind date and fallen in love with crafts,
tinkering with something mechanical, maybe
writing, or painting? Have you been "deeply
stirred" by airplanes, computers, movies,
insects, ballet, or some musical instrument.
If you
answered yes to any of these questions you may have
recognized your dream when you found it.
- If you have
always had a special love for something your
dream may have found you.
- If you have
been deeply stirred by something you may have
found your dream.
Remember a
dream can be recognized in childhood or old age. It
could come from your own imagination or be handed to
you by others or even by some "chance"
meeting.
2.
They Clearly Defined What They Wanted
Dennis Waitley
who writes about how to be successful said,
"Most
people fail to achieve their goals because they never
really set them in the first place."
Wayne Gretzkey
the Hockey star said,
"It's
not as important to know where the puck is now as to
know where it will be."
S. B. Fuller
said,
"If
you know what you want, you are more apt to recognize
it when you see it."
Mary Kay Ash,
who grew Mary Kay Cosmetics from a storefront and
nine saleswomen into an international direct sales
giant wrote,
"You
have to have a road map if you expect to get to your
destination. The same is thing is true of your life.
Without a plan, a road map, you will never get where
you want to go. To accomplish anything, you must sit
down and decide what you what from life - your
long-term goals."
127 Things to Do
The best
example of this is a man named John Goddard who at
age 15 heard an older man talking about how he
regretted not doing something when he was young.
Hearing this make John think about how he never
wanted to be old and know he had not done the things
in life he wanted.
So young John
Goddard wrote a list of 127 things he wanted to do in
life. By the time he was in his 60's he had done 115
of them, including rafting down the Nile River,
climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro, and learning how to fly.
Each time he would go on one of his trips he would
come home and lecture about it in order to make money
for the next adventure on his list.
The last item
on John's list (#127) was to live until the year
2000. For the last few years John Goddard has been
successfully battling cancer and I believe his
long-goal of completing his list has been one of the
factors in his continued survival.
3.
They Constantly Kept Their Dream In Front Of Them
All successful
people write their dreams down, or draw a picture of
them, or tape record them, or get a photograph of the
thing they want. All successful people keep this
reminder constantly in front of their face.
Conrad Hilton kept the picture of
the Waldroff.
Viktor Frankl kept writing his lost
manuscript on tiny pieces of paper.
Jim Carrey always kept his $10
million check in his wallet.
Remember what Emil Coué said,
"Every
thought solely occupying our mind becomes true for us
and tends to transform itself into action."
4.
They Eagerly Educated Themselves About Their Dream
- While a
child Thomas Edison wanted to learn so badly
that he started at the first bookcase, first
row of the public library and started
reading. He did not stop until he had read
every single book in the library.
- Abraham
Lincoln worked hard all day and studied a law
book by the light of the fireplace at night.
- Steven
Spielberg used every extra minute he had as a
child making 8mm movies, learning how to make
special effects and learning how to edit
different scenes in order to tell a story on
film.
Once you know
what your passion is - learn
everything you can about it, even if you have to
start from nothing.
5.
They Didn't Listen To "No" Sayers
The modern
world we live in is the best evidence I can think of
to not listen to those who say, "You can't do it
or it can't be done." We are literally
surrounded by inventions and ideas that were once
thought of as impossible science fiction.
- The
Wright Brothers didn't
listen when people said man
was not meant to fly.
- John
Kennedy didn't listen when people
said a Catholic can never become President.
- Martin
Luther King, Jr. didn't
listen when people said
segregation will never change.
- Young
Thomas Edison didn't
listen when his grammar school
teacher told his mother to take him out of
school because he was a dunce who would never
amount to anything.
- Franklin
Roosevelt didn't
listen when people said he was
finished in politics because he had polio.
As Mary Kay
Ash says,
"All
the experts say the bumblebee shouldn't be able to
fly, its' body is too heavy for its' wings. But the
bumblebee doesn't know this and it flies very
well."
If you want to
succeed don't listen to the no sayers, listen to your
heart.
6.
They Understood Each Failure as Another Step Closer
to Success
Dr. Jean-Louis
Etienne wrote about his famous one man walk to the
North Pole:
"There
are two great times of happiness - when you are
haunted by a dream, and when you realize it. Between
the two there's a strong urge to let it all drop. But
you have to follow your dreams to the end."
Soichiro Honda
wrote,
"Many
people dream of success. To me success can be
achieved only through repeated failure and
introspection. In fact, success represents the 1
percent of your work that results from the 99 percent
that is called failure."
- Cy Young
holds the record for the most wins 512 and
the record for the most
losses 313
- Henry
Ford went bankrupt
twice before he hit it big
with the Model T.
- Lincoln lost
every political race he entered
until he finally won the big one, when he was
sixty years old.
- Thomas
Edison had over
1,000 failures before he perfected the
light bulb.
Ted Turner
says.
"Never
get discouraged and never quit. Because if you never
quit, you're never beaten."
7.
They Gave Their Dream a "Higher Purpose"
People who
succeed must find a way to make their dream help more
than just themselves. Just as in all successful
marriages each partner must surrender to the other in
order to become united.
In life your
dream must offer the world something greater than
your own happiness.
- Jim
Carrey wanted to make people laugh.
- Henry
Ford wanted to make cars cheap enough so the
average person could afford one.
- Alexander
Bell invented the telephone while trying to
find a way to help the deaf.
- Martin
Luther King wanted to see all children of
America grow up together and equal under the
law.
Did they do
this just to help others and not themselves? No, they
helped themselves by helping others. The point is not
to be a saint, but to help others get what they want.
If you help other people get what they dream about,
they will help you succeed.
The Seven
Traits of Successful People
- They
recognized their dream whenever and wherever they found
it.
Have you discovered something you naturally love?
- They
clearly defined what they wanted.
Have you wrote out exactly what you want?
- They
constantly kept their dream in front of them.
Do you have a drawing, picture, audio recording or
written blueprint of your dream that you can see
everyday?
- They
eagerly educated themselves about their dream.
Are you spending time each day learning every thing you
can about your dream?
- They
didn't listen to No Sayers.
Are you refusing to listen to those who would steal your
dream with their negative opinions?
- They
understood each failure as another step closer to
success.
Have you quit because of a failure or are you counting on
failures as a part of the success process?
- They
gave their dreams a "higher purpose".
How will your dream benefit other people?
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